TED – Ideas Worth Spreading – The secret to desire in a long-term relationship – Esther Perel’s ideas about what it means to be in love and have a fulfilling sex life, how to sustain desire while maintaining intimate familiarity and functioning logistically as a couple, resonate deeply. “The very ingredients that nurture love — mutuality, reciprocity, protection, worry, responsibility for the other — are sometimes the very ingredients that stifle desire.” So, what is a coupe to do? Listen carefully.